Focus on helping each other become experts on one another; there is a shared responsibility for the emotional regulation of our partner; we need to rely on our experience of them to build expertise on who they are. We will be more contented in our relationships if we become experts at identifying dysregulation in our partner and successfully attend to them, aiding them back to self-regulation. Ziji
Mere thinking will never avail. Thought is a beautiful and proud occupation (where) study is concerned. But you can never think your way (out) of difficult emotional problems. Something else needs to be done. You have to make yourself passive and listen. Get into touch with that little piece of eternity inside of you. Etty Hillesum
Competitors for our daily time are far more assertive than we are about our marriage. Doherty