It is the absurdity of family life, the raggedness of it, that is at once its redemption and nobility. James McBride
Marriages are successful to the degree that the problems you choose are ones you can cope with. Most problematic issues are not solved they are consciously managed. John Gottman.
It is worth remembering that even when a couple divorce, researchers found that unhappily married adults who divorced were no more likely to report emotional & psychological improvements than those who stayed married.
In addition, the most unhappy marriages reported the most dramatic turnarounds: among those who rated their marriages as very unhappy, almost 8 out of 10 who avoided divorce were happily married 5 years later.